We all have those moments. The moments that make us wish we had a time machine so we could avoid the embarrassment, rejection, heartache. Maybe 100 years from now people will have that option but if we think hard about it would that make things easier? Going back in time does not erase what we witnessed or how it made us feel.
A better option, and probably a more realistic one, is to embrace the power you hold in those moments. Confront it head on and choose to persevere.
The more intense moments are harder to process because they hurt our core, but hopefully those moments are few and far between. The smaller moments that occur for some of us daily – tripping over absolutely nothing, spilling coffee down the front of our white shirt, walking out of a public bathroom dragging toilet paper behind us – these are the moments that we need to embrace a “fuck it” mentality. We all have those moments so what’s the big deal?
I had a more than everyday-type-of-moment last weekend. I was picking my daughter up from dance and used the bathroom. As I came out I walked down the “runway” past all the other parents and sat down. A few minutes passed and as I waited I started to look around the room and my eyes rested on my feet. There, stuck to my sneaker, was a pair of my underwear. Yes, my underwear, my lacy thong underwear. Not the pair I had on; those were still safely on my body. I realized immediately that they must have gotten stuck in the leg of my skinny jeans while in the dryer. I quickly grabbed them and stuck them in my jacket pocket.
I have no idea if anyone saw, but chances are someone did. So, what if they saw? I may have given them a good giggle, which is great because most people don’t laugh enough.
I would have been mortified had it been me ten years ago; now I feel empowered by the fact that I am okay with fucking up here and there. Everyone does, so why don’t we embrace it and move on. Worrying about what other people think will do nothing but drive you crazy. You will end up spending more time thinking about “what if” than anyone will spend thinking about what they saw happen to you. Letting go of the fear or anxiety will liberate you and allow you to laugh at these moments. Life can be funny and we should benefit from it.